Connected, but alone? - Sherry Turkle
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just a moment ago my daughter Rebecca
just a moment ago my daughter Rebecca
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texted me for good luck her text said
texted me for good luck her text said
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Mom you will
Mom you will
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rock I love this getting that t
rock I love this getting that t
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it was like getting a hug and so there
it was like getting a hug and so there
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you have it I embody the central Paradox
you have it I embody the central Paradox
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I'm a woman who loves getting texts
I'm a woman who loves getting texts
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who's going to tell you that too many of
who's going to tell you that too many of
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them can be a
them can be a
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problem actually that reminder of my
problem actually that reminder of my
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daughter brings me to the beginning of
daughter brings me to the beginning of
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my story
my story
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1996 when I gave my first Ted Talk
1996 when I gave my first Ted Talk
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Rebecca was 5 years old and she was
Rebecca was 5 years old and she was
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sitting right there in the front row I
sitting right there in the front row I
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had just written a book that celebrated
had just written a book that celebrated
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our life on the internet and I was about
our life on the internet and I was about
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to be on the cover of Wired
to be on the cover of Wired
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Magazine in those he days we were
Magazine in those he days we were
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experimenting with chat rooms and online
experimenting with chat rooms and online
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virtual communities we were exploring
virtual communities we were exploring
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different aspects of ourselves and then
different aspects of ourselves and then
we
we
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unplugged I was excited and as a
unplugged I was excited and as a
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psychologist what excited me most was
psychologist what excited me most was
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the idea that we would use what we
the idea that we would use what we
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learned in the virtual world about
learned in the virtual world about
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ourselves about our identity to live
ourselves about our identity to live
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better lives in the real world now fast
better lives in the real world now fast
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forward to 2012 I'm back here on the Ted
forward to 2012 I'm back here on the Ted
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stage again my daughter's 20 she's a
stage again my daughter's 20 she's a
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college student she sleeps with her cell
college student she sleeps with her cell
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phone so do
phone so do
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I and I've just written a new book but
I and I've just written a new book but
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this time it's not one that will get me
this time it's not one that will get me
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on the cover of Wired Magazine so what
on the cover of Wired Magazine so what
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happened I'm still excited by
happened I'm still excited by
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technology but I believe and I'm here to
technology but I believe and I'm here to
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make the case that we're letting it take
make the case that we're letting it take
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us places that we don't want to go over
us places that we don't want to go over
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the past 15 years I've studied
the past 15 years I've studied
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Technologies of mobile communication and
Technologies of mobile communication and
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I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds
I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds
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of people young and old about their
of people young and old about their
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plugged in lives and what I've found is
plugged in lives and what I've found is
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that our little devices those little
that our little devices those little
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devices in our pockets are so
devices in our pockets are so
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psychologically powerful that they don't
psychologically powerful that they don't
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only change what we do they change who
only change what we do they change who
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are some of the things we do now with
are some of the things we do now with
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our devices are things that only a few
our devices are things that only a few
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years ago we would have found odd or
years ago we would have found odd or
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disturbing but they've quickly come to
disturbing but they've quickly come to
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seem familiar just how we do things so
seem familiar just how we do things so
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just to take some quick examples people
just to take some quick examples people
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text or do email during corporate board
text or do email during corporate board
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meetings they text and shop and go on
meetings they text and shop and go on
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Facebook during classes during
Facebook during classes during
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presentations actually during all
presentations actually during all
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meetings people talk to me about the
meetings people talk to me about the
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important new skill of making eye
important new skill of making eye
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texting people explain to me that it's
texting people explain to me that it's
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hard but that it can be done parents
hard but that it can be done parents
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text and do email at breakfast and at
text and do email at breakfast and at
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dinner while their children complain
dinner while their children complain
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about not having their parents full
about not having their parents full
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attention but then these same children
attention but then these same children
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deny each other their full attention
deny each other their full attention
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this is a recent shot of my daughter and
this is a recent shot of my daughter and
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her friends being together while not
her friends being together while not
being
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together and we even texted funerals I
together and we even texted funerals I
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study this we remove ourselves from our
study this we remove ourselves from our
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grief or from our revery and we go into
grief or from our revery and we go into
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phones why does this matter it matters
phones why does this matter it matters
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to me because I think we're setting
to me because I think we're setting
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ourselves up for trouble trouble
ourselves up for trouble trouble
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certainly in how we relate to each other
certainly in how we relate to each other
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but also trouble in how we relate to
but also trouble in how we relate to
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ourselves in our capacity for
ourselves in our capacity for
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self-reflection we're getting used to a
self-reflection we're getting used to a
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new way of being alone together people
new way of being alone together people
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want to be with each other but also
want to be with each other but also
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elsewhere connected to all the different
elsewhere connected to all the different
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places they want to be people want to
places they want to be people want to
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customize their lives they want to go in
customize their lives they want to go in
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and out of all the places they are
and out of all the places they are
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because the thing that matters most to
because the thing that matters most to
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them is control over where they put
them is control over where they put
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their attention so you want to go to
their attention so you want to go to
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that board meeting but you only want to
that board meeting but you only want to
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pay attention to the bits that interest
pay attention to the bits that interest
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you and some people think
you and some people think
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that's a good thing but you can end up
that's a good thing but you can end up
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hiding from each other even as we're all
hiding from each other even as we're all
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constantly connected to each other
constantly connected to each other
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50-year-old businessman laments to me
50-year-old businessman laments to me
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that he feels he doesn't have colleagues
that he feels he doesn't have colleagues
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anymore at work when he goes to work he
anymore at work when he goes to work he
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doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he
doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he
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doesn't call and he says he doesn't want
doesn't call and he says he doesn't want
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to interrupt his colleagues because he
to interrupt his colleagues because he
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says they're too busy on their email but
says they're too busy on their email but
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then he stops himself and he says you
then he stops himself and he says you
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know I'm not telling you the truth I'm
know I'm not telling you the truth I'm
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the one who doesn't want to be
the one who doesn't want to be
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interrupted I think I should want to but
interrupted I think I should want to but
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actually I'd rather just do things on my
actually I'd rather just do things on my
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BlackBerry across the generations I see
BlackBerry across the generations I see
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that people can't get enough of each
that people can't get enough of each
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other if and only if they can have each
other if and only if they can have each
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other at a distance in amount they can
other at a distance in amount they can
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control I call it the Goldilocks effect
control I call it the Goldilocks effect
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not too close not too far just right
not too close not too far just right
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but what might feel just right for that
but what might feel just right for that
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middle-aged executive can be a problem
middle-aged executive can be a problem
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for an adolescent who needs to develop
for an adolescent who needs to develop
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face-to-face relationships an
face-to-face relationships an
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18-year-old boy who uses texting for
18-year-old boy who uses texting for
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almost everything says to me
almost everything says to me
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wistfully
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someday someday but certainly not now
someday someday but certainly not now
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I'd like to learn how to have a
I'd like to learn how to have a
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conversation when I ask people what's
conversation when I ask people what's
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wrong with having a
wrong with having a
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conversation people say I'll tell you
conversation people say I'll tell you
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what's wrong with having a
what's wrong with having a
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conversation it takes place in real time
conversation it takes place in real time
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and you can't control what you're going
and you can't control what you're going
to
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say so that's the bottom line texting
say so that's the bottom line texting
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email posting all of these things let us
email posting all of these things let us
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present the self as we want to be we get
present the self as we want to be we get
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to edit and that means we get to delete
to edit and that means we get to delete
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and that means we get to touch the face
and that means we get to touch the face
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The Voice the flesh the body not too
The Voice the flesh the body not too
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little not too much just
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right human relationships are rich and
right human relationships are rich and
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they're messy and they're demanding and
they're messy and they're demanding and
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we clean them up with
we clean them up with
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technology and when we do one of the
technology and when we do one of the
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things that can happen is that we
things that can happen is that we
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sacrifice conversation for mere
sacrifice conversation for mere
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connection we Short change ourselves and
connection we Short change ourselves and
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over time we seem to forget this or we
over time we seem to forget this or we
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seem to stop
seem to stop
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caring I was caught off guard when
caring I was caught off guard when
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Steven colar asked me a profound
Steven colar asked me a profound
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question a profound
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question he
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said don't all those little tweets don't
said don't all those little tweets don't
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all those little sips of online
all those little sips of online
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communication add up to one big gulp of
communication add up to one big gulp of
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conversation my answer was no they don't
conversation my answer was no they don't
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add up connecting in sips may work for
add up connecting in sips may work for
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Gathering discrete bits of information
Gathering discrete bits of information
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they may work for saying I'm thinking
they may work for saying I'm thinking
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about you or even for saying I love you
about you or even for saying I love you
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I mean look at how I felt when I got
I mean look at how I felt when I got
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that text from my daughter but they
that text from my daughter but they
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don't really work for learning about
don't really work for learning about
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each other for really coming to know and
each other for really coming to know and
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understand each other and we use
understand each other and we use
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conversations with each other to learn
conversations with each other to learn
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how to have conversations with
how to have conversations with
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ourselves so a flight from conversation
ourselves so a flight from conversation
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can really matter because it can
can really matter because it can
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compromise our capacity for
compromise our capacity for
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self-reflection for kids growing up that
self-reflection for kids growing up that
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skill is the bed Rock of
skill is the bed Rock of
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development over and over I hear I would
development over and over I hear I would
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rather text than talk and what I'm
rather text than talk and what I'm
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seeing is that people get so used to
seeing is that people get so used to
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being short changed out of real
being short changed out of real
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conversation so used to getting by with
conversation so used to getting by with
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less that they become almost willing to
less that they become almost willing to
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dispense with people altogether so for
dispense with people altogether so for
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example many people share with me this
example many people share with me this
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wish that someday a more advanced
wish that someday a more advanced
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version of Siri the digital assistant on
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Apple's iPhone will be more like a best
Apple's iPhone will be more like a best
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friend someone who will listen when
friend someone who will listen when
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won't I believe this wish reflects a
won't I believe this wish reflects a
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painful truth that I've learned in the
painful truth that I've learned in the
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past 15 years that feeling that no one
past 15 years that feeling that no one
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is listening to me is very important in
is listening to me is very important in
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our relationships with
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technology that's why it's so appealing
technology that's why it's so appealing
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to have a Facebook page or a Twitter
to have a Facebook page or a Twitter
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feed so many automatic listeners and the
feed so many automatic listeners and the
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feeling that no one is listening to me
feeling that no one is listening to me
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makes us want to spend time with
makes us want to spend time with
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machines that seem to care about us
machines that seem to care about us
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we're developing robots they call them
we're developing robots they call them
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sociable robots that are specifically
sociable robots that are specifically
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designed to be companions to the elderly
designed to be companions to the elderly
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to our
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children to
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us have we so lost confidence that we
us have we so lost confidence that we
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will be there for each
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other during my research I worked in
other during my research I worked in
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nursing homes and I brought in these
nursing homes and I brought in these
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sociable robots that were designed to
sociable robots that were designed to
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give the elderly the feeling that they
give the elderly the feeling that they
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were understood and one day I came in
were understood and one day I came in
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and a woman who had lost a child was
and a woman who had lost a child was
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talking to a robot in the shape of a
talking to a robot in the shape of a
baby
baby
baby
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seal it seemed to be looking in her eyes
seal it seemed to be looking in her eyes
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it seemed to be following the
it seemed to be following the
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conversation it comforted her and many
conversation it comforted her and many
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people found this amazing
people found this amazing
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but that woman was trying to make sense
but that woman was trying to make sense
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of her life with a machine that had no
of her life with a machine that had no
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experience of the Arc of a human life
experience of the Arc of a human life
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that robot put on a great show and we're
that robot put on a great show and we're
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vulnerable people experience pretend
vulnerable people experience pretend
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empathy as though it were the real thing
empathy as though it were the real thing
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so during that
so during that
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moment when that woman was experiencing
moment when that woman was experiencing
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that pretend empathy y I was thinking
that pretend empathy y I was thinking
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that robot can't empathize it doesn't
that robot can't empathize it doesn't
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face death it doesn't know life and as
face death it doesn't know life and as
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that woman took comfort in her robot
that woman took comfort in her robot
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companion I didn't find it amazing I
companion I didn't find it amazing I
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found it one of the most wrenching
found it one of the most wrenching
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complicated moments in my 15 years of
complicated moments in my 15 years of
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work but when I stepped back I felt
work but when I stepped back I felt
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myself at the cold hard center of a
myself at the cold hard center of a
perfect
perfect
perfect
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storm we expect more from technology and
storm we expect more from technology and
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less from each other and I ask myself
less from each other and I ask myself
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why have things come to
why have things come to
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this and I believe it's because
this and I believe it's because
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technology appeals to us most where we
technology appeals to us most where we
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are most
are most
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vulnerable and we are vulnerable we're
vulnerable and we are vulnerable we're
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lonely but we're afraid of intimacy and
lonely but we're afraid of intimacy and
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so from social networks to Sociable
so from social networks to Sociable
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robots we're designed technologies that
robots we're designed technologies that
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will give us the illusion of
will give us the illusion of
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companionship without the demands of
companionship without the demands of
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friendship we turn to technology to help
friendship we turn to technology to help
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us feel connected in ways we can
us feel connected in ways we can
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comfortably control but we're not so
comfortably control but we're not so
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comfortable we are not so much in
comfortable we are not so much in
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control these days those phones in our
control these days those phones in our
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pockets are changing our minds and
pockets are changing our minds and
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hearts because they offer us three
hearts because they offer us three
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gratifying fantasies one that we can put
gratifying fantasies one that we can put
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our attention wherever we want it to be
our attention wherever we want it to be
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two that we will always be heard and
two that we will always be heard and
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three that we will never have to be
three that we will never have to be
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alone and that third idea that we will
alone and that third idea that we will
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never have to be alone is Central to
never have to be alone is Central to
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changing our psyches because the moment
changing our psyches because the moment
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that people are alone even for a few
that people are alone even for a few
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seconds they become anxious they Panic
seconds they become anxious they Panic
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they fidget they reach for a device just
they fidget they reach for a device just
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think of people at a checkout line or at
think of people at a checkout line or at
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a red light being alone feels like a
a red light being alone feels like a
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problem that needs to be be solved and
problem that needs to be be solved and
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so people try to solve it by connecting
so people try to solve it by connecting
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but here connection is more like a
but here connection is more like a
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symptom than a cure it expresses but it
symptom than a cure it expresses but it
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doesn't solve an underlying problem but
doesn't solve an underlying problem but
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more than a symptom constant connection
more than a symptom constant connection
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is changing the way people think of
is changing the way people think of
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themselves it's shaping a new way of
themselves it's shaping a new way of
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being the best way to describe it is I
being the best way to describe it is I
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share therefore I am we use technology
share therefore I am we use technology
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to Define ourselves by sharing our
to Define ourselves by sharing our
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thoughts and feelings even as we're
thoughts and feelings even as we're
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having them so before it was I have a
having them so before it was I have a
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feeling I want to make a call now it's I
feeling I want to make a call now it's I
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want to have a feeling I need to send a
want to have a feeling I need to send a
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text the problem with this new regime of
text the problem with this new regime of
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I share therefore I am is that if we
I share therefore I am is that if we
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don't have connection we don't feel like
don't have connection we don't feel like
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ourselves we almost don't feel ourselves
ourselves we almost don't feel ourselves
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so what do we do we connect more and
so what do we do we connect more and
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more but in the process we set ourselves
more but in the process we set ourselves
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up to be
up to be
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isolated how do you get from connection
isolated how do you get from connection
to
to
to
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isolation you end up isolated if you
isolation you end up isolated if you
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don't cultivate the capacity for
don't cultivate the capacity for
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Solitude the ability to be separate to
Solitude the ability to be separate to
gather
gather
gather
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yourself Solitude is where you find
yourself Solitude is where you find
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yourself so that you can reach out to
yourself so that you can reach out to
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other people and form real
other people and form real
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attachments when we don't have the
attachments when we don't have the
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capacity for Solitude we turn to other
capacity for Solitude we turn to other
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people in order to feel less anxious or
people in order to feel less anxious or
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in order to feel alive when this happens
in order to feel alive when this happens
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we're not able to appreciate who they
we're not able to appreciate who they
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are it's as though we're using them as
are it's as though we're using them as
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spare parts to support our fragile sense
spare parts to support our fragile sense
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of self we slip into thinking that
of self we slip into thinking that
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always being connected is going to make
always being connected is going to make
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us feel less alone but we're at risk
us feel less alone but we're at risk
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because actually it's the opposite
because actually it's the opposite
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that's true if we're not able to be
that's true if we're not able to be
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alone we're going to be more lonely and
alone we're going to be more lonely and
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if we don't teach our children to be
if we don't teach our children to be
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alone they're only going to know how to
alone they're only going to know how to
be
be
be
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lonely when I spoke at Ted in
lonely when I spoke at Ted in
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1996 reporting on my studies of the
1996 reporting on my studies of the
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early virtual communities I said those
early virtual communities I said those
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who make the most of their lives on the
who make the most of their lives on the
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screen come to it in a spirit of
screen come to it in a spirit of
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self-reflection and that's what I'm
self-reflection and that's what I'm
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calling for here now reflection and more
calling for here now reflection and more
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than that a conversation about where our
than that a conversation about where our
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current use of Technology may be taking
current use of Technology may be taking
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us us what it might be costing us we are
us us what it might be costing us we are
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smitten with technology and we're afraid
smitten with technology and we're afraid
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like young lovers that too much talking
like young lovers that too much talking
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might spoil the romance but it's time to
might spoil the romance but it's time to
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talk we grew up with digital technology
talk we grew up with digital technology
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and so we see it as all grown up but
and so we see it as all grown up but
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it's not it's early days there's plenty
it's not it's early days there's plenty
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of time for us to reconsider how we use
of time for us to reconsider how we use
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it it how we build it I'm not suggesting
it it how we build it I'm not suggesting
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that we turn away from our devices just
that we turn away from our devices just
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that we develop a more self-aware
that we develop a more self-aware
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relationship with them with each other
relationship with them with each other
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and with
and with
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ourselves I see some First Steps start
ourselves I see some First Steps start
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thinking of solitude as a good thing
thinking of solitude as a good thing
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make room for it find ways to
make room for it find ways to
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demonstrate this as a value to your
demonstrate this as a value to your
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children create sacred spaces at home
children create sacred spaces at home
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the kitchen in the dining room and
the kitchen in the dining room and
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reclaim them for conversation do the
reclaim them for conversation do the
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same thing at work at work we're so busy
same thing at work at work we're so busy
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communicating that we often don't have
communicating that we often don't have
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time to think we don't have time to talk
time to think we don't have time to talk
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about the things that really matter
about the things that really matter
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change that most important we all really
change that most important we all really
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need to listen to each other including
need to listen to each other including
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to the boring
to the boring
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bits because it's when we stumble or
bits because it's when we stumble or
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hesitate or lose our work words that we
hesitate or lose our work words that we
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reveal ourselves to each
reveal ourselves to each
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other technology is making a bid to
other technology is making a bid to
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redefine human connection how we care
redefine human connection how we care
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for each other how we care for ourselves
for each other how we care for ourselves
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but it's also giving us the opportunity
but it's also giving us the opportunity
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to affirm our values and our
to affirm our values and our
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Direction I'm optimistic we have
Direction I'm optimistic we have
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everything we need to start we have each
everything we need to start we have each
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other and we have the greatest chance of
other and we have the greatest chance of
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success if we recognize our
success if we recognize our
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vulnerability that we listen when
vulnerability that we listen when
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technology says it will take something
technology says it will take something
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complicated and Promises something
complicated and Promises something
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simpler so in my work I hear that life
simpler so in my work I hear that life
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is hard relationships are filled with
is hard relationships are filled with
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risk and then there's technology simpler
risk and then there's technology simpler
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hopeful optimistic ever young it's like
hopeful optimistic ever young it's like
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calling in the Cavalry and add campaign
calling in the Cavalry and add campaign
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promises that online and with avatars
promises that online and with avatars
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you can quote finally love your friends
you can quote finally love your friends
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love your body love your life online and
love your body love your life online and
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with avatars we're drawn to Virtual
with avatars we're drawn to Virtual
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romance to computer games that seem like
romance to computer games that seem like
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worlds to the idea that robots robots
worlds to the idea that robots robots
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will someday be our true
will someday be our true
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companions we spend an evening on the
companions we spend an evening on the
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social network instead of going to the
social network instead of going to the
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pub with
pub with
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friends but our fantasies of
friends but our fantasies of
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substitution have cost
substitution have cost
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us now we all need to focus on the many
us now we all need to focus on the many
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many ways technology can lead us back to
many ways technology can lead us back to
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our real lives our own bodies Our Own
our real lives our own bodies Our Own
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communities our own politics our own
communities our own politics our own
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Planet they need
Planet they need
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us let's talk about how we can use
us let's talk about how we can use
digital
digital
digital
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technology the techn technology of our
technology the techn technology of our
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dreams to make this life the life we can
dreams to make this life the life we can
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Sherry Turkle, TED, TED, Talk, technology, connection, human, connection, technology, TED-Ed, ED, TEDEducation
