Khoa học đáng ngạc nhiên về hạnh phúc-Nancy Etcoff

The surprising science of happiness - Nancy Etcoff

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the pursuit of happiness is that the pursuit of happiness is obligatory obligatory obligatory man<00:00:27.450> wishes<00:00:27.900> to<00:00:27.930> be<00:00:28.140> happy<00:00:28.529> only<00:00:28.860> wishes<00:00:29.400> to<00:00:29.550> be man wishes to be happy only wishes to be man wishes to be happy only wishes to be happy<00:00:30.029> and<00:00:30.239> cannot<00:00:30.869> wish<00:00:31.169> not<00:00:31.500> to<00:00:31.529> be<00:00:31.800> so<00:00:32.070> we happy and cannot wish not to be so we happy and cannot wish not to be so we are<00:00:33.150> wired<00:00:33.450> to<00:00:33.810> pursue<00:00:34.200> happiness<00:00:34.410> only<00:00:34.950> to are wired to pursue happiness only to are wired to pursue happiness only to enjoy<00:00:35.340> it<00:00:35.760> but<00:00:35.970> to<00:00:36.120> want<00:00:36.360> more<00:00:36.630> and<00:00:36.690> more<00:00:37.170> of<00:00:37.290> it enjoy it but to want more and more of it enjoy it but to want more and more of 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value in 1995 illegal drugs were street value in 1995 illegal drugs were a<00:01:16.110> 400<00:01:16.920> million-dollar<00:01:17.490> business a 400 million-dollar business a 400 million-dollar business representing<00:01:18.810> 8%<00:01:19.440> of<00:01:19.650> world<00:01:20.190> trade<00:01:20.460> roughly representing 8% of world trade roughly representing 8% of world trade roughly the<00:01:21.000> same<00:01:21.150> as<00:01:21.390> gas<00:01:21.750> and<00:01:21.990> oil<00:01:22.110> these<00:01:22.680> routes<00:01:23.190> to the same as gas and oil these routes to the same as gas and oil these routes to happiness<00:01:23.670> haven't<00:01:24.090> really<00:01:24.240> increased happiness haven't really increased happiness haven't really increased happiness<00:01:25.170> very<00:01:25.350> much<00:01:25.680> one<00:01:26.550> problem<00:01:27.000> that's happiness very much one problem that's happiness very much one problem that's happening<00:01:27.630> now<00:01:27.780> 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