Everyday leadership - Drew Dudley
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how many of you are completely
how many of you are completely
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comfortable with calling yourselves a
comfortable with calling yourselves a
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leader see I've asked that question all
leader see I've asked that question all
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the way across the country and
the way across the country and
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everywhere I ask it no matter where
everywhere I ask it no matter where
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there's always a huge portion of the
there's always a huge portion of the
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audience that won't put up their hand
audience that won't put up their hand
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and I've come to realize that we have
and I've come to realize that we have
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made leadership into something bigger
made leadership into something bigger
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than us we made it into something beyond
than us we made it into something beyond
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us we made it about changing the world
us we made it about changing the world
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and we've taken this title of leader and
and we've taken this title of leader and
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we treat it as if it's something that
we treat it as if it's something that
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one day we're going to deserve but to
one day we're going to deserve but to
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give it to ourselves right now means a
give it to ourselves right now means a
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level of arrogance or cockiness that
level of arrogance or cockiness that
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we're not comfortable with and I worry
we're not comfortable with and I worry
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sometimes that we spend so much time
sometimes that we spend so much time
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celebrating amazing things that hardly
celebrating amazing things that hardly
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anybody can do that we've convinced
anybody can do that we've convinced
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ourselves that those are the only things
ourselves that those are the only things
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we're celebrating and we start to
we're celebrating and we start to
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devalue the things that we can do every
devalue the things that we can do every
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day and we start to take moments where
day and we start to take moments where
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we truly are a leader and we don't let
we truly are a leader and we don't let
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ourselves take credit for and we don't
ourselves take credit for and we don't
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let ourselves feel good about it and
let ourselves feel good about it and
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I've been lucky enough over the last ten
I've been lucky enough over the last ten
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years to work with some amazing people
years to work with some amazing people
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who have helped me redefine leadership
who have helped me redefine leadership
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in a way that I think has made me
in a way that I think has made me
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happier and with my short time today I
happier and with my short time today I
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just want to share with you the one
just want to share with you the one
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story that is probably most responsible
story that is probably most responsible
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for that redefinition I went to a school
for that redefinition I went to a school
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in a little school called Mount Allison
in a little school called Mount Allison
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University in Sackville New Brunswick
University in Sackville New Brunswick
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and on my last day there a girl came up
and on my last day there a girl came up
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to me and she said I remember the first
to me and she said I remember the first
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time that I met you and then she told me
time that I met you and then she told me
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a story that happened four years earlier
a story that happened four years earlier
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she said on my day before I started
she said on my day before I started
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University I was in the hotel room with
University I was in the hotel room with
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my mom and my dad and I was so scared
my mom and my dad and I was so scared
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and so convinced that I couldn't do this
and so convinced that I couldn't do this
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that I wasn't ready for university that
that I wasn't ready for university that
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I just burst into tears and my mom and
I just burst into tears and my mom and
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my dad were amazing they were like look
my dad were amazing they were like look
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we know you're scared
we know you're scared
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but let's just go to more let's go to
but let's just go to more let's go to
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the first day and if at any point you
the first day and if at any point you
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feel as if you can't do this that's fine
feel as if you can't do this that's fine
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just tell us we will take you home we
just tell us we will take you home we
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love you no matter what and she said so
love you no matter what and she said so
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I would the next day and I was standing
I would the next day and I was standing
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in line getting ready for registration
in line getting ready for registration
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and I looked around and I just knew I
and I looked around and I just knew I
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couldn't do it I knew I wasn't ready I
couldn't do it I knew I wasn't ready I
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knew I had to quit and she says I made
knew I had to quit and she says I made
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that decision and as soon as I made it
that decision and as soon as I made it
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there was this incredible feeling of
there was this incredible feeling of
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peace that came over me and I turned to
peace that came over me and I turned to
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my mom and my dad to tell them that we
my mom and my dad to tell them that we
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needed to go home and just at that
needed to go home and just at that
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moment you came out of the Student Union
moment you came out of the Student Union
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Building wearing the stupidest hat I
Building wearing the stupidest hat I
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have ever seen in my life
have ever seen in my life
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it was awesome and you had a big sign
it was awesome and you had a big sign
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promoting Shina ramen which is students
promoting Shina ramen which is students
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fighting cystic fibrosis the charity
fighting cystic fibrosis the charity
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I've worked with for years and you had a
I've worked with for years and you had a
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bucket full of lollipops and you were
bucket full of lollipops and you were
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walking along and you were handing the
walking along and you were handing the
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lollipops out to people in line and
lollipops out to people in line and
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talking about shina Rama and all of a
talking about shina Rama and all of a
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sudden you got to me and you just
sudden you got to me and you just
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stopped and you stared it was creepy
stopped and you stared it was creepy
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this girl right here knows exactly what
this girl right here knows exactly what
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I'm talking about and then you look at
I'm talking about and then you look at
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the guy next to me and you smiled and he
the guy next to me and you smiled and he
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reached in your bucket you pulled out a
reached in your bucket you pulled out a
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lollipop and you held it out to him and
lollipop and you held it out to him and
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you said you need to give a lollypop to
you said you need to give a lollypop to
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the beautiful woman standing next to you
the beautiful woman standing next to you
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and she said I have never seen anyone
and she said I have never seen anyone
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get more embarrassed faster in my life
get more embarrassed faster in my life
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he turned beet red and he wouldn't even
he turned beet red and he wouldn't even
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look at me he just kind of held a
look at me he just kind of held a
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lollipop out like this and I felt so bad
lollipop out like this and I felt so bad
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for this dude that I took the lollipop
for this dude that I took the lollipop
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and as soon as I did you got this
and as soon as I did you got this
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incredibly severe look on your face and
incredibly severe look on your face and
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you looked at my mom and my dad and you
you looked at my mom and my dad and you
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said look at that look at that first day
said look at that look at that first day
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away from home and already she's taking
away from home and already she's taking
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candy from a stranger
candy from a stranger
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and she said everybody lost it 20 feet
and she said everybody lost it 20 feet
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in every direction everyone started to
in every direction everyone started to
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howl and I know this is cheesy and I
howl and I know this is cheesy and I
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don't know why I'm telling you this but
don't know why I'm telling you this but
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in that moment when everyone was
in that moment when everyone was
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laughing I knew that I shouldn't quit I
laughing I knew that I shouldn't quit I
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knew that I was where I was supposed to
knew that I was where I was supposed to
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be and I knew that I was home and I
be and I knew that I was home and I
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haven't spoken to you once in the four
haven't spoken to you once in the four
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years since that day but I heard that
years since that day but I heard that
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you were leaving and I had to come up
you were leaving and I had to come up
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and tell you that you've been an
and tell you that you've been an
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incredibly important person in my life
incredibly important person in my life
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and I'm gonna miss you
and I'm gonna miss you
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good luck and she walks away and I'm
good luck and she walks away and I'm
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flattened and she gets about 6 feet away
flattened and she gets about 6 feet away
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she turns around and smiles and goes you
she turns around and smiles and goes you
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should probably know this too I'm still
should probably know this too I'm still
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dating that guy 4 years later a year and
dating that guy 4 years later a year and
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a half after I moved to Toronto I got an
a half after I moved to Toronto I got an
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invitation to their wedding here's the
invitation to their wedding here's the
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kicker I don't remember that I have no
kicker I don't remember that I have no
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recollection of that moment and I've
recollection of that moment and I've
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searched my memory banks because that is
searched my memory banks because that is
funny
funny
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and I should remember doing it and I
and I should remember doing it and I
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don't remember it and that was such an
don't remember it and that was such an
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eye-opening transformative moment for me
eye-opening transformative moment for me
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to think that the maybe the biggest
to think that the maybe the biggest
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impact I'd ever had on anyone's life a
impact I'd ever had on anyone's life a
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moment that had a woman walk up to a
moment that had a woman walk up to a
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stranger four years later and say you've
stranger four years later and say you've
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been an incredibly important person in
been an incredibly important person in
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my life was a moment that I didn't even
my life was a moment that I didn't even
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remember how many of you guys have a
remember how many of you guys have a
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lollipop moment a moment where someone
lollipop moment a moment where someone
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said something or did something that you
said something or did something that you
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feel fundamentally made your life better
feel fundamentally made your life better
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alright how many of you have told that
alright how many of you have told that
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person they did it see why not we
person they did it see why not we
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celebrate birthdays where all you have
celebrate birthdays where all you have
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to do is not die for 365 days
to do is not die for 365 days
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and yet we let people who have made our
and yet we let people who have made our
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lives better walk around without knowing
lives better walk around without knowing
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it and every single one of you every
it and every single one of you every
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single one of you has been the catalyst
single one of you has been the catalyst
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for a lollipop moment you have made
for a lollipop moment you have made
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someone's life better by something that
someone's life better by something that
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you said or that you did and if you
you said or that you did and if you
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think you have it think about all the
think you have it think about all the
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hands that didn't go back up when I
hands that didn't go back up when I
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asked that question you're just one of
asked that question you're just one of
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the people who hasn't been told but it
the people who hasn't been told but it
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is so scary to think of ourselves as
is so scary to think of ourselves as
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that powerful it can be frightening to
that powerful it can be frightening to
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think that we can matter that much to
think that we can matter that much to
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other people because as long as we make
other people because as long as we make
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leadership something bigger than us as
leadership something bigger than us as
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long as we keep leadership something
long as we keep leadership something
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beyond us as long as we make it about
beyond us as long as we make it about
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changing the world we give ourselves an
changing the world we give ourselves an
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excuse not to expect it every day from
excuse not to expect it every day from
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ourselves and from each other Marianne
ourselves and from each other Marianne
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Williamson said our greatest fear is not
Williamson said our greatest fear is not
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that we are inadequate our greatest fear
that we are inadequate our greatest fear
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is that we are powerful beyond measure
is that we are powerful beyond measure
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it is our light and not our darkness
it is our light and not our darkness
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that frightens us and my call to action
that frightens us and my call to action
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today is that we need to get over that
today is that we need to get over that
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we need to get over our fear of how
we need to get over our fear of how
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extraordinarily powerful we can be at
extraordinarily powerful we can be at
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each other's lives we need to get over
each other's lives we need to get over
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it so we can move beyond it and our
it so we can move beyond it and our
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little brothers and our little sisters
little brothers and our little sisters
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and one day our kids or our kids right
and one day our kids or our kids right
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now can watch a start to value the
now can watch a start to value the
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impact we can have on each other's lives
impact we can have on each other's lives
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more than money and power and titles and
more than money and power and titles and
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influence we need to redefine leadership
influence we need to redefine leadership
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as being about lollipop moments how many
as being about lollipop moments how many
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of them we create how many then we
of them we create how many then we
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acknowledge how many of them we pay
acknowledge how many of them we pay
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forward and how many of them we say
forward and how many of them we say
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thank you for because we've made
thank you for because we've made
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leadership about changing the world and
leadership about changing the world and
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there is no world there's only six
there is no world there's only six
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billion understandings of it and if you
billion understandings of it and if you
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change one person's understanding of it
change one person's understanding of it
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one person's understanding of what
one person's understanding of what
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they're capable of
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one person's understanding of how much
one person's understanding of how much
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people care about them one person's
people care about them one person's
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understanding of how powerful an agent
understanding of how powerful an agent
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for change they can be in this world you
for change they can be in this world you
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change the whole thing and if we can
change the whole thing and if we can
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chain understand leadership like that I
chain understand leadership like that I
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think if we can redefine leadership like
think if we can redefine leadership like
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that I think we can change everything
that I think we can change everything
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and it's a simple idea but I don't think
and it's a simple idea but I don't think
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it's a small one and I want to thank you
it's a small one and I want to thank you
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Drew Dudley, TED, TEDx, TEDxToronto, TED-Ed, TED, Ed’, TEDEducation, leadership
