The demise of guys - Philip Zimbardo
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but today I want us to reflect on the
but today I want us to reflect on the
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demise of guys guys are flaming out
demise of guys guys are flaming out
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academically they're wiping out socially
academically they're wiping out socially
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with girls and sexually with women other
with girls and sexually with women other
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than that is not much of a problem so
than that is not much of a problem so
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what's the data so the data on dropping
what's the data so the data on dropping
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out is amazing boys are more than 30
out is amazing boys are more than 30
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percent more likely than girls to drop
percent more likely than girls to drop
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out of school in Canada five boys drop
out of school in Canada five boys drop
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out for every three girls girls
out for every three girls girls
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outperform boys now at every level from
outperform boys now at every level from
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elementary school to graduate school
elementary school to graduate school
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there's a ten percent differential
there's a ten percent differential
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between getting bas and all graduate
between getting bas and all graduate
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programs with guys BR falling behind
programs with guys BR falling behind
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girls two-thirds of all students in
girls two-thirds of all students in
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special ed remedial programs are guys
special ed remedial programs are guys
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and as you all know the boys are 5 times
and as you all know the boys are 5 times
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more likely than girls to be labeled as
more likely than girls to be labeled as
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having attention deficit disorder and
having attention deficit disorder and
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therefore we drug them with ritalin
therefore we drug them with ritalin
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what's the evidence a billion white of
what's the evidence a billion white of
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wiping out first it's a new fear of
wiping out first it's a new fear of
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intimacy intimacy means physical
intimacy intimacy means physical
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emotional connection with somebody else
emotional connection with somebody else
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and especially with somebody of the
and especially with somebody of the
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opposite sex who gives off ambiguous
opposite sex who gives off ambiguous
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and every year there's research done on
and every year there's research done on
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self-reported shyness among college
self-reported shyness among college
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students and we're seeing a steady
students and we're seeing a steady
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increase among males and this is two
increase among males and this is two
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kinds it's a social awkwardness the old
kinds it's a social awkwardness the old
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shyness was a fear rejection it's a
shyness was a fear rejection it's a
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social awkwardness like you're a
social awkwardness like you're a
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stranger in a foreign land they don't
stranger in a foreign land they don't
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know to say they don't want know to do
know to say they don't want know to do
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especially one on one opposite sex they
especially one on one opposite sex they
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don't know the language of face contact
don't know the language of face contact
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the nonverbal and verbal set of rules
the nonverbal and verbal set of rules
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that enable you to comfortably talk to
that enable you to comfortably talk to
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somebody else
somebody else
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listen to somebody else there's
listen to somebody else there's
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something I've developed here called
something I've developed here called
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social intensity syndrome which tries to
social intensity syndrome which tries to
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account for why guys really prefer male
account for why guys really prefer male
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bonding over female mating it turns out
bonding over female mating it turns out
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from earliest childhood boys and then
from earliest childhood boys and then
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men prefer the company of guys physical
men prefer the company of guys physical
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company and it's actually a cortical
company and it's actually a cortical
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arousal we're looking at because guys
arousal we're looking at because guys
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have been with guys in in teams in clubs
have been with guys in in teams in clubs
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in gangs and fraternities especially in
in gangs and fraternities especially in
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the military and then in pubs and this
the military and then in pubs and this
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peaks at Super Bowl Sunday when guys
peaks at Super Bowl Sunday when guys
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would rather be in a bar with strangers
would rather be in a bar with strangers
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watching a totally overdressed Aaron
watching a totally overdressed Aaron
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Rodgers of the Green Bay Packers rather
Rodgers of the Green Bay Packers rather
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than Jennifer Lopez totally naked in the
than Jennifer Lopez totally naked in the
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bedroom the problem is they now prefer a
bedroom the problem is they now prefer a
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synchronistic internet world to the
synchronistic internet world to the
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spontaneous interaction and social
spontaneous interaction and social
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relationships what are the causes well
relationships what are the causes well
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it's an unintended consequence I think
it's an unintended consequence I think
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it's excessive internet use in general
it's excessive internet use in general
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excessive video gaming excessive new
excessive video gaming excessive new
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access to pornography the problem is
access to pornography the problem is
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these are arousal addictions drug
these are arousal addictions drug
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addiction simply want more arousal
addiction simply want more arousal
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addiction you want different drugs you
addiction you want different drugs you
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want more of the same difference so you
want more of the same difference so you
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need the novelty of the arousal you need
need the novelty of the arousal you need
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to be sustained and the problem is the
to be sustained and the problem is the
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industry is supplying it Jane McGonigal
industry is supplying it Jane McGonigal
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told us last year that by the time of
told us last year that by the time of
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boys 21 that he's played ten thousands
boys 21 that he's played ten thousands
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of video games most of that in isolation
of video games most of that in isolation
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as you remember Cindy Gallup said boys
as you remember Cindy Gallup said boys
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don't know the difference between making
don't know the difference between making
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love men between making love and doing
love men between making love and doing
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porn the average boy now watches 50 porn
porn the average boy now watches 50 porn
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video clips a week and then some guy
video clips a week and then some guy
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watching 100 obviously and the porn
watching 100 obviously and the porn
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industry
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and the porn industry is the fastest
and the porn industry is the fastest
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growing industry America 15 billion
growing industry America 15 billion
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annually for every 400 movies made in
annually for every 400 movies made in
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Hollywood there 11,000 now made a point
Hollywood there 11,000 now made a point
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important videos so the effects very
important videos so the effects very
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quickly is it's a new kind of arousal
quickly is it's a new kind of arousal
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boys brains are being digitally rewired
boys brains are being digitally rewired
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in a totally new way for change novelty
in a totally new way for change novelty
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excitement and constant arousal that
excitement and constant arousal that
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means they're totally out of sync in
means they're totally out of sync in
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traditional classes which are analog
traditional classes which are analog
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static and interactive passive they're
static and interactive passive they're
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also totally out of sync in romantic
also totally out of sync in romantic
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relationships which build gradually and
relationships which build gradually and
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subtly so what's the solution it's not
subtly so what's the solution it's not
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my job I'm here to along it's your job
my job I'm here to along it's your job
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to come but Canisius but who should care
to come but Canisius but who should care
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the only people should care about this
the only people should care about this
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is parents are boys and girls educators
is parents are boys and girls educators
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gamers filmmakers and women who would
gamers filmmakers and women who would
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like a real man who they can talk to who
like a real man who they can talk to who
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can dance who can make love slowly and
can dance who can make love slowly and
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contribute to the evolutionary pressures
contribute to the evolutionary pressures
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to keep our species above banana slugs
to keep our species above banana slugs
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no offense to banana slug owners thank
no offense to banana slug owners thank
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