Sex needs a new metaphor. Here's one ... - Al Vernacchio
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I'd like to talk to you today about a
I'd like to talk to you today about a
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whole new way to think about sexual
whole new way to think about sexual
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activity and sexuality education by
activity and sexuality education by
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comparison if you talk to someone today
comparison if you talk to someone today
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in America about sexual activity
in America about sexual activity
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you'll find pretty soon you're not just
you'll find pretty soon you're not just
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talking about sexual activity you're
talking about sexual activity you're
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also talking about
also talking about
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basball because baseball is the dominant
basball because baseball is the dominant
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cultural metaphor that Americans use to
cultural metaphor that Americans use to
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think about and talk about sexual
think about and talk about sexual
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activity and we know that because
activity and we know that because
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there's all this language in English
there's all this language in English
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that seems to be talking about baseball
that seems to be talking about baseball
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but that's really talking about sexual
but that's really talking about sexual
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activity so forth example you could be a
activity so forth example you could be a
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pitcher or a catcher and that
pitcher or a catcher and that
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corresponds to whether you perform a
corresponds to whether you perform a
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sexual act or receive a sexual act of
sexual act or receive a sexual act of
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course there are the bases which refer
course there are the bases which refer
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to specific sexual activities that
to specific sexual activities that
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happen in a very specific
happen in a very specific
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order ultimately resulting in a scoring
order ultimately resulting in a scoring
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a run or hitting a home run which is
a run or hitting a home run which is
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usually having vaginal intercourse to
usually having vaginal intercourse to
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the point of orgasm at least for the
the point of orgasm at least for the
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guy you can strike out which means you
guy you can strike out which means you
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don't get to have any sexual activity
don't get to have any sexual activity
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and if you're a benchwarmer you might be
and if you're a benchwarmer you might be
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a virgin or somebody for whom whatever
a virgin or somebody for whom whatever
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reason isn't in the game maybe because
reason isn't in the game maybe because
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of your age or because of your ability
of your age or because of your ability
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or because of your skill
or because of your skill
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set a bat's a penis and a nappy Dugout
set a bat's a penis and a nappy Dugout
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is a vulva or a
is a vulva or a
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vagina a glove or a catcher's mitt is a
vagina a glove or a catcher's mitt is a
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condom a switch hitter is a bisexual
condom a switch hitter is a bisexual
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person and we gay and lesbian folks play
person and we gay and lesbian folks play
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for the other
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team and then there's this
team and then there's this
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one if there's grass on the fields play
one if there's grass on the fields play
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ball and that usually refers to if a
ball and that usually refers to if a
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young person specifically often a young
young person specifically often a young
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woman is old enough to have pubic hair
woman is old enough to have pubic hair
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she's old enough to have sex with this
she's old enough to have sex with this
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baseball model is incredibly problematic
baseball model is incredibly problematic
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it's sexist it's heterosexist it's
it's sexist it's heterosexist it's
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competitive it's goal directed and it
competitive it's goal directed and it
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can't result in healthy sexuality
can't result in healthy sexuality
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developing in young people or in adults
developing in young people or in adults
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so we need a new model I'm here today to
so we need a new model I'm here today to
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offer you that new model and it's based
offer you that new model and it's based
on
on
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pizza now Pizza is something that is
pizza now Pizza is something that is
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universally understood and that most
universally understood and that most
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people associate with a positive
people associate with a positive
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experience so let's do this let's take
experience so let's do this let's take
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baseball and pizza and compare it when
baseball and pizza and compare it when
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talking about three aspects of sexual
talking about three aspects of sexual
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activity the trigger for sexual activity
activity the trigger for sexual activity
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what happens during sexual activity and
what happens during sexual activity and
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the expected outcome of sexual activity
the expected outcome of sexual activity
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so when do do you play baseball you play
so when do do you play baseball you play
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baseball when it's baseball season and
baseball when it's baseball season and
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when there's a game on the schedule it's
when there's a game on the schedule it's
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not exactly your choice so if it's prom
not exactly your choice so if it's prom
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night or wedding night or at a party or
night or wedding night or at a party or
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if our parents AR in home hey it's just
if our parents AR in home hey it's just
batter
batter
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up can you imagine saying to your coach
up can you imagine saying to your coach
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uh not really feeling it today I think
uh not really feeling it today I think
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I'll sit this game out that's just not
I'll sit this game out that's just not
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the way it happens and when you get
the way it happens and when you get
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together to play baseball immediately
together to play baseball immediately
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you're with two opposing teams
you're with two opposing teams
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one playing offense one playing defense
one playing offense one playing defense
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somebody's trying to move deeper into
somebody's trying to move deeper into
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the field that's usually assigned to the
the field that's usually assigned to the
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boys somebody's trying to defend people
boys somebody's trying to defend people
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moving into the field that's often given
moving into the field that's often given
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to the girl it's competitive we're not
to the girl it's competitive we're not
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playing with each other we're playing
playing with each other we're playing
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against each other and when you show up
against each other and when you show up
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to play baseball nobody needs to talk
to play baseball nobody needs to talk
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about what we're going to do or how this
about what we're going to do or how this
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baseball game might be good for us
baseball game might be good for us
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everybody knows the rules you just take
everybody knows the rules you just take
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your position and play the
your position and play the
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game but when you have pizza well you
game but when you have pizza well you
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have pizza when you're hungry for pizza
have pizza when you're hungry for pizza
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it starts with an internal sense an
it starts with an internal sense an
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internal desire or a need huh I could go
internal desire or a need huh I could go
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pizza and because it's an internal
pizza and because it's an internal
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desire we actually have some sense of
desire we actually have some sense of
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control over that I can decide that I'm
control over that I can decide that I'm
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hungry but know that it's not a great
hungry but know that it's not a great
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time to
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eat and then when we get together with
eat and then when we get together with
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someone for pizza we're not competing
someone for pizza we're not competing
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with them we're looking for an
with them we're looking for an
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experience that both of us will share
experience that both of us will share
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that that's satisfying for both of us
that that's satisfying for both of us
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and when you get together for pizza with
and when you get together for pizza with
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somebody what's the first thing you do
somebody what's the first thing you do
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you talk about it you talk about what
you talk about it you talk about what
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you want you talk about what you like
you want you talk about what you like
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you may even negotiate how do you feel
you may even negotiate how do you feel
about
about
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pepperoni not so much I'm kind of a
pepperoni not so much I'm kind of a
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mushroom guy myself well maybe we can go
mushroom guy myself well maybe we can go
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half and half and even if you've had
half and half and even if you've had
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pizza with somebody for a very long time
pizza with somebody for a very long time
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don't you still say things like should
don't you still say things like should
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we get the
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usual or maybe something a little more
usual or maybe something a little more
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adventurous okay so when you're playing
adventurous okay so when you're playing
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baseball so if we talk about during
baseball so if we talk about during
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sexual activity when you're playing
sexual activity when you're playing
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baseball you're just supposed to round
baseball you're just supposed to round
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the bases in the proper order one at a
the bases in the proper order one at a
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time you can't hit the ball and run to
time you can't hit the ball and run to
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right field that doesn't work and you
right field that doesn't work and you
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also can't get to second base and say I
also can't get to second base and say I
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like it here I'm going to stay here
like it here I'm going to stay here
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no and also of course with baseball
no and also of course with baseball
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there's like the specific equipment and
there's like the specific equipment and
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a specific skill set not everybody can
a specific skill set not everybody can
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play baseball it's pretty exclusive okay
play baseball it's pretty exclusive okay
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but what about pizza when we're trying
but what about pizza when we're trying
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to figure out what's good for pizza
to figure out what's good for pizza
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isn't it all about what's our pleasure
isn't it all about what's our pleasure
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there are a million different kinds of
there are a million different kinds of
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pizza there's a million different
pizza there's a million different
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toppings there's a million different
toppings there's a million different
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ways to eat pizza and none of them are
ways to eat pizza and none of them are
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wrong they're different and in this case
wrong they're different and in this case
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difference is good because that's going
difference is good because that's going
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to increase the chance that we're having
to increase the chance that we're having
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a satisfying
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experience and lastly what's the
experience and lastly what's the
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expected outcome of baseball well in
expected outcome of baseball well in
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baseball you play to win you score as
baseball you play to win you score as
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many runs as you can there's always a
many runs as you can there's always a
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winner in baseball and that means
winner in baseball and that means
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there's always a loser in
there's always a loser in
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baseball but what about pizza well in
baseball but what about pizza well in
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Pizza we're not really there's no
Pizza we're not really there's no
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winning how do you win Pizza you don't
winning how do you win Pizza you don't
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but you do look for are we satisfied and
but you do look for are we satisfied and
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sometimes that can be different amounts
sometimes that can be different amounts
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over different times or with different
over different times or with different
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people or in different
people or in different
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days and we get to decide when we feel
days and we get to decide when we feel
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satisfied if we're still hungry we might
satisfied if we're still hungry we might
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have some more if you eat too much
have some more if you eat too much
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gross so what if we could take this
gross so what if we could take this
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pizza model and overlay it on top of
pizza model and overlay it on top of
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sexuality education a lot of sexuality
sexuality education a lot of sexuality
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education that happens today is so
education that happens today is so
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influenced by the baseball model and it
influenced by the baseball model and it
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sets up education that can't help but
sets up education that can't help but
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produce unhealthy sexuality in young
produce unhealthy sexuality in young
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people and those young people become
people and those young people become
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older people but if we could create
older people but if we could create
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sexuality education that was more like
sexuality education that was more like
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pizza we could create education that
pizza we could create education that
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invites people to think about their own
invites people to think about their own
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desires to make deliberate decisions
desires to make deliberate decisions
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about what they want to talk about it
about what they want to talk about it
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with their partners and to ultimately
with their partners and to ultimately
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look for not some external outcome but
look for not some external outcome but
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for what feels satisfying and we get to
for what feels satisfying and we get to
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decide that you may have noticed in the
decide that you may have noticed in the
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baseball and pizza uh comparison under
baseball and pizza uh comparison under
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the baseball it's all commands they're
the baseball it's all commands they're
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all exclamation points but under the
all exclamation points but under the
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pizza model they're questions and who
pizza model they're questions and who
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gets to answer those questions you do I
gets to answer those questions you do I
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do so remember when we're thinking about
do so remember when we're thinking about
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sexuality education and sexual activity
sexuality education and sexual activity
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baseball you're
baseball you're
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out pizza is the way to think about
out pizza is the way to think about
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healthy satisfying sexual activity and
healthy satisfying sexual activity and
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good comprehensive sexuality education
good comprehensive sexuality education
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